Why Is Ryan Gosling 'Sexist' For Thanking Mother Of His Children At Golden Globes?
Walter Hudson, PJ Media
You might sincerely wonder whether radical feminists enjoy anything at all. For some, it seems like every occasion or utterance triggers outrage.
Accepting his award for Best Actor in La La Land at the Golden Globes on Sunday, Ryan Gosling singled out his girlfriend Eva Mendes for extra special thanks. He said:
... while I was singing and dancing and playing piano and having one of the best experiences I’ve ever had on a film, my lady was raising our daughter, pregnant with our second and trying to help her brother fight his battle with cancer. If she hadn’t have taken all that on so that I could have this experience, it would surely be someone else up here other than me today.
Sweet, right? Not according to killjoy Narjas Zatat writing for the Independent:
Despite the swooning on social media for his Notebook-esque outpouring, I can’t help but feel that Eva Mendes, an award-winning actor in her own right, took one for the team and provided the emotional labour needed for Gosling to further his own career.
Gosling’s appreciation for his partner, may be genuine but it plays into structural inequality women face in the workplace, least of all Hollywood. Yes, Mendes has agency, and the decision to put her career on the back burner for the sake of her husband’s was hers, but why did she have to make that decision to begin with?
Set aside for the moment that Gosling and Mendes likely have the means to hire whatever help they desire in caring for their growing brood. Let's imagine that they didn't. Let's imagine that Mendes truly "had to" care for her children to afford Gosling the opportunity to work on La La Land.
What's the problem? Is she chained to a post in the kitchen? Is she breastfeeding at gunpoint? Did Gosling somehow coerce or cajole her into taking on a maternal role?
It's safe to say, judging by Gosling's eagerness to thank Mendes for her invaluable contribution to his success, that Mendes indeed chose to contribute. She didn't "have to." She wanted to. It may be difficult for radical feminists like Zatat to understand. But isn't it possible that Mendes made her choice because she loves her boyfriend and their children? Is that not a legitimate, healthy, and even admirable motivation?